I was recently at one of my favorite restaurants in Napa, The Rutherford Grill. This place is really nice and has amazing food and atmosphere. I was ready to relax and enjoy some good company.
After my group was seated I noticed a group of three young adults at the next table that were all staring into their “smart” phones (maybe they can be called “smart” because they control our time and have sucked our brains right out of our heads). Not one of the young people was speaking to the others. I was sure that this was just one awkward moment in their time together. I was wrong.
A full hour went by and they remained like this. Once in a while, one of them would do a mild guffaw and they would share what was on the screen of their phone, but very little else happened. Even when their food was delivered they remained glued to their electronics. I have to say I was completely APPALLED!
I no longer have babies at home with a babysitter, I don’t have a young teen who is babysitting for the first time, I don’t have an ill person at home that could possibly need me on a moments notice, so I’ve decided that there is absolutely no reason for me to take my phone out in a restaurant. My family knows where I am, if there is a real emergency, they can go the old fashion route and call the restaurant and have me located. I am no longer keeping my phone on when I’m eating out with someone else.
I have caught myself a few times recently feeling tempted to quickly Google some piece of info that is part of the discussion, but realized it wasn’t dire. I know I hate when I’m talking to someone and they pull their phone out to “just check something” and I’m sitting there awkwardly waiting. I don’t want others to feel that way in my presence any more. I want people to know, that if I’m eating with them, they are my priority in that moment.
Today is the beginning of lent. I know a lot of people give up things like Facebook and other such media. I would suggest you take a look at whether you are a smart phone junky or not. Maybe putting some limitations on that thing for 40 days might be a nice change…think about it.