I have noticed recently that some of my fellow homeschooling moms will take their tough days to their husbands and sometimes don’t get the support they are looking for. They might even get a, “Why don’t you just put the kids in school?” This is so deflating and not what the homeschooling mom needs.
I compare this to trying to explain depression to someone who has never experienced depression and receiving the old, “Have you tried just feeling happier?” Or someone with a migraine trying to explain why they are taking the day off and getting, “Why don’t you just take a Tylenol?” Sometimes it takes someone who’s been there to really get where you are coming from (There are some people who are brilliant at getting it no matter what, but I think it’s rare). I think finding the right kind of support takes someone with similar experiences.
So my latest advice for homeschooling moms is this: Find a friend who is also homeschooling. Share your crying moments, your difficult days, your “I almost called the school” experiences, your “I don’t know if Johnny is ever going to read” frustrations…When you share with someone who understands, you can decompress and find friendly commiseration. You don’t get solutions thrown at you because, like you, they know that tomorrow will be the laughing moments, aha days, your “I love reading on the couch with my kids” experiences, and “Johnny is getting an A in science” successes.
I learned early on that when I went to my hubby with my bad days, I would go after I had processed with a friend. I went to him with a complete story of my dealing with my day. “Honey, the kids were driving me crazy today. I couldn’t get them to sit still and just do the work. I called my friend and we talked it out. I think tomorrow will be 100 times better.”
I hope this helps. Happy Homeschooling.