“I need to have those cute jeans.” This is the need/want debate people often talk about. They discuss how people behave with consumerism and what they buy. I’m NOT going to talk about that.
I don’t need a man in my life, but I WANT my hubby to be married to me until death do us part. I want his friendship. I don’t like TV couples that show a relationship where husbands and wives tolerate each other. It’s in this attitude that we realize we don’t need this and we throw it away. Well, I want my marriage and all the things that that entails.
People act sometimes like the relationships they have are a “should” or “have to”. So they act like it’s something they endure. They don’t own that it was at some point a “want”. The idea that you “have to love your spouse” is funny, because at some point you wanted to be married. We need to continue to want it.
I didn’t need kids, but I wanted them. That’s a hard one to write down. I have such an intense love of my boys, that it’s hard to believe they are not a need in my life. I wanted them. I chose to have them and care for them. I continue to want a relationship with them.
I’m talking about this, because it occurred to me that God is like this. He doesn’t need me. He doesn’t need you either. His perfect existence doesn’t need anything. But, boy oh boy, does He WANT us. He wants us to want Him too. We can’t just choose God and then act like it’s a chore. He doesn’t do that to us.
With God there is a deep want that is persistent. He continues to want a relationship with us. I think sometimes (I know this is true for me) we sometimes act like it’s gone from a want to a “you need to”.
So today, in your walk with God, ask yourself if you are treating God like a deep want that feels like a need (something so deep it’s like a craving) or if you are treating Him like a need that you never wanted in the first place (all expectation and rules). Do something today that shows God you want to be in that relationship.
Note* I know this breaks down a bit. Because now that I am following Jesus, I know I NEED God.